So today I had my German lesson with my teacher and a theme that we spoke about was jealousy or envy and comparing yourself to others, what others have that you don’t. The bitterness that we come up against every moment of our lives.
We compare us to people that we see on Instagram or Facebook. How beautiful and gorgeous the life of people that see online are? So we all that: we want that life, that house, and that car.
However, we face up the envy at work, with people that we know and sometimes with our family members. Let me be honest; the last one is the worst one.
But the point of all that is how much we are willing to work to get all that thing that we want, the life that we desire and see on social media. How much of our time can we give to do what is in our power to reach and achieve that life?
The underlying problem is that we continuously compare ourselves to others.
We forget that everyone’s life, career, a relationship is so personal. We forget to appreciate our days, family, and why not the material things that we have.
However, we notice only what others have and how much we want that. Perhaps we don’t want to see how much work, hustle and perseverance people put into getting all that they want.
The same happens when we are envious about someone’s career achievements. Maybe your colleges capacity to do well their job, sales that your coworkers make, or perhaps the ability to build an excellent relationship with customers. I can bring other examples, but it doesn’t matter. We all know that feeling, and we can’t get rid of it.
In other words, we are humans, and it is natural. Well, in most of the cases.
But today’s blog post isn’t about how to get rid of jealousy because we can’t do it.
It is more how to stop comparing yourself to others and build our confidence in what we do or can do. Our potential is limitless. So let get started.
If time to time you notice that you’re comparing yourself to others, then it is the time to stop looking at social media.
Give yourself an amount of limited time to check on Instagram or Facebook, and other social media. I don’t know if you’re actively addicted then only half an hour or hour per day would be enough.
Don’t get me wrong I’m totally into social media. I think you can learn a lot from people that you follow. Maybe you can get an idea for your home decor, or travel to make. Perhaps you need some inspirational quotes, and you can get them to form socials. But you shouldn’t take advantage of it.
I always repeat the same thing, to get something in your life; you need to work hard. If I want to be better on my job, I need to understand what can I learn, where to improve, what course to take.
It is all about how you see things. Don’t be envious of your coworkers. Perhaps they work harder than you. Or probably they have luck. ( Sometimes it happens, but in most of the time results that you see comes after hard work).
In the end, it only matters what you’re doing. You can take your colleagues as an example and learn from them.
Don’t be jealous. Do your thing, upgrade your skills. Keep attention on what your strengths are and make perfection form them.
As I mentioned before, your strength is only yours. You can improve or stay ordinary.
So if you are good with the client and in building a strong relationship with customers, then work on your communication skills. If your strength is organization, then you can apply it to your everyday work, in scheduling and organizing. Perhaps you can change your career and start to work as an assistant. Why not?
Your language skills are so excellent, and it gets easy for you to learn new languages than probably you have to move in this direction.
You see, everyone is unique in a completely different way. We need to get what makes us unique and work on our strength.
Success comes from doing those things and mastering those principles that produce success. Don’t count on luck for promotions,victories, the good things in life. Concentrate on developming those qualities in yourself that will make you a winner.
David Schwartz form The magic of thinking big
Sometimes you will compare yourself to others. It is in human nature. But in the end, stay true to yourself.
You don’t need to compare your job to others. Your work, accomplished tasks, acquired customer, a good sale, and production realization is your work, and it is as essential as any team member. There will be no company; brand a startup without people that work there — people with different qualities and skills. So do your job and try to do it correctly. And if you can’t, then learn how to do it.
Stay true to yourself without putting others lower than you. I often see peoples behavior when they are envious. Jealousy is a bad quality. Try to concentrate on what your job and not coworkers, boss or manager. Comparing to others will not bring you anywhere. But you can take inspiration from people that you’re admiring. It could be anyone — the Youtube or Instagram influencer, coworker, a friend a neighbor. Anyone who is inspiring you can become an example for you. Choose wisely.
According to boldonlinemagazine.com
Developing one’s confidence is an essential process of personal development. But it’s common for millennial women to overlook their best qualities due to a lack in self-confidence. In a generation where social media can influence how we perceive ourselves, feelings of insecurity can be overwhelming.
There are many ways to improve your self-esteem; bold magazine online suggests a personal photographic shoot. But unfortunately, it isn’t always possible. So how we can improve self-confidence? How can we feel better in our skin?
Let me be honest with you; there is no magic potion. The only cure is inside you. You need to take care of yourself.
Like I said earlier, be yourself. That’s what makes you unique. If you don’t like something in your body: do sport, eat healthier, stay active. Change your hairstyle, buy make-up, try to improve your style.
Get inspired by a good book, influencer, a video.
If you don’t believe in yourself, try to stay positive. It is easier to see a glass always half empty, but try to see that the glass is half fooled. Comparing yourself to others will bring only pain, and will low your self-esteem.